Top Ten Provocative Questions about Relating to [Your] Rage

What if there was an impulse for goodness, an urge, an itch that drove us in the *right* direction? What if that stimulus would be the rage that lives in each of us, waiting to be recognized as the gate keeper to our essential nature? What if that collective rage, which we resist and misuse so much, would give us the energy to become a force into ourselves, to take responsibility for the entire process of life, and to partake in the creation of an enlightened universe? I invite you to explore how that fiery pulsation may be the key to your authenticity, to your true self, your heart, to the very consciousness you have been looking for. Thank you for your willingness here.

1. Expression, what expression?
Interesting how expression can be destructive, as in the extreme of road rage, for example… What is the goal in throwing rage out, when there are signs for not littering on every highway, including this of the heart? What is expressed here is the rage to not being able to express self creatively, going from the mild frustration of having “a word on the tongue” to the stronger, much deeper challenge to not know your true voice.

2. Pleasing, outrageous?
Being a pleaser is the soft way of acting out, and yes, I find it to be literally “outrageous”! Some of us are SO afraid of our instinctive nature, of the unmet rage that lives in us that we become sheepish, conditioned in our reflexes to please others, choosing the disguise of a no will wimp so as to not create waves, so as to not speak our truth. Should that be your case, here are some scripts for you: “No, I will not meet you for tea.” “No, this is not appropriate.’ “No, I will not return his call now…” “No!”

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3. Suppression, what suppression?
That is the next road the ego will have you to travel! The thing is: there is no escape, dear one! Sooner or later, you will have to face this raw energy inside you… You will have to go IN, rather then OUTputting it. You will have to handle it constructively, not destructively… That is the greatest challenge as most of us go into denial: we pretend it’s not there. We suppress it. We want to believe that it is going to disappear, that one day we will wake up, and the rage will be gone! Well, think again!

4. Did you say “aloneness”?
Without the desperate fear of aloneness, there may be less dysfunctional relationships! Quite a statement, isn’t it? The word “alone” can be seen as “all one”, which supports the very idea of love, to become one with each other… Isn’t oneness the idea in falling in love? Yet ONE is never enough, it seems. Often the quest for more has made you forget your lover, your friends, your service to the world. “If you cannot be with the one you love, love the one you’re with!” How about marrying your aloneness, thereby coming back to peace and inclusiveness?

5. Body, what buddy?
That one won’t leave you alone for a while (and it’s a good thing!) Truly, I can only relate to the suffering of having a body, to the pain of having to birth it, to maintain it in shape, to groom it, to wash it, to feed it, not counting the distress of sickness, or the anguish to seeing it age! Welcome to the sorrow of being in the body! That is, until you choose to use this body as your buddy, your instrument of service to this world… At that point, it won’t matter how big, small, curvaceous, polished, fit it is! You will simply wake up to the joy of a new day, and bring more healing on this planet by being exactly who you are!

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6. Are you yoyoing from desires…
There is another impulse, desire! And is it, really? What if the yearning, the hunger, the disgruntled need was just another expression of the rage that lives at the bottom of our unexplored selves? What if having desires was a clever way to be in control, and not have to approach that bottom layer of rage? Hey, I may want more wealth, more fame, or more chocolate, but at least I am the one in charge! That is a dangerous game to play, as you soon might notice that the desire actually runs you: it has become your master, and now you are trapped! Enraging, isn’t it?

7. … to resistances?
You are right: the fire burns! So the moral of the story is to stay away from fire. Bad fire! Very bad fire! You are right, indeed, as it is totally counter-intuitive to go where it hurts: who would want to do a stupid thing like that? So, instead we become the prisoners of illusionary bounds: This is OK, that is not OK... This is Art, that is not Art… We instead accept a life of quiet despair, whose function is to hide the resistances, the fears, the preferences, to numb the terror to experience our rage … O thou of little gall, not deciding, only concerned by the SCARED in you, dare commit to the SACRED of you!

8. A side of fries with your beacon?
And there is, of course, the rage to not belong, to not be able to find your heart and abide on its lofty altar, the rage to not feel deserving. Deservedness is so simple: it comes out of holding beautiful priorities. It comes from choosing to be loving rather than loved, understanding rather than understood, as St. Francis of Assisi so beautifully prayed. I understand your rage to not know the brilliance, the splendor, the radiance that you are, to not let your candle burn so courageously it blesses others with the clarity they seek. Been there! Know yourself: allow your divinity to glow in your own heart.

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9. Did I hear “filling”?
I continue to rejoice in the magical properties of the English language. Another very meaningful association resides in filling versus feeling. Ahhh, the rage to be so ignorant of the ways of love, while filling emptiness with distractions, foods, pretenses, and eat the lies through a place of no love. Feeling is the other way, feeling the fire burning all that is not kindness, all that is not grace, all that is not truth. Love is indeed a funeral pyre: it leaves no deviant stones unturned. It perseveres quietly, until you are ready for its flaming embrace, and find yourself reborn to the intelligent emptiness that makes receiving possible.

10. Ready for change?
And that is the big one: the rage to not see the redeeming beauty of the fire, the rage to want to extinguish it, the rage to not open to the alchemical transformation, the rage to refuse to change, the rage to lose time and procrastinate dying to the old, the rage to not surrender to the passionate strength of the fire, to its dominant lust, that is wanting to take you, to scorch you, to possess you, to eat you up until you are no more… Yes, the fire is burning, and yes, it will have you if you come close. Yet what “you” are you talking about? What “you” are you protecting? What “you” are you not willing to see emerging? Come out, dear heART: it is time!

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